To Match or Not to Match

For those of you who have followed the tidbits of the past year, that I have shared, you know that this has been a trying year for me. Based on the events of the past months, several of my friends suggested that I attempt to resource an internet dating site such as match.com, eharmony, or chemistry.com. I must admit that I was less than eager about pursuing this option. I just think that you need to have your whole heart in it and mine is not there. Despite the conclusion that I came to I did decide to skirt over to match.com and check it out.

Some of you may have attempted this sort of dating resource before. I know that there are some success stories out there with individuals who met this way. Now, please do not misunderstand what I am saying here. I believe that such sites can be perfect, but I am just not interested at the moment. Now this is not to say that I won't be willing to try this out at some other time, but just not now.

Now if you have never checked such a site out then I truly suggest that you skip over to match.com and give it a go. Yes, I know that many who read my blog are married, have kids even, or are in committed relationships. I am just suggesting that for the sake of relating to my story here that you go and take a quick gander for yourself. You do not have to have a username or password set-up to take a look. You can just say that you are a woman (for example) seeking men (for example) within whatever area code. Now without a username and password you may not be able to really look at the details of a person's profile. However for the inexperienced out there this will give you the basic idea. Who knows maybe you'll come across someone you know.

Now, if you took my suggestion and took a look for yourself then you will be better prepared to understand the rest of my story or if you have previous experience with such sites then you may already be right here with me. So, I did exactly what I suggested each of you do and these are the things that drove me mad:

1. If everyone of your profile photos has 10 other people in them then if I where to met up with you somewhere how in the heck would I know who I was looking for?

2. I appreciate a guy who loves his mother, but can you not find a photo to use that does not include her? I don't know that just seems like a red flag to me.

3. When you are completing your profile there is a place where you can insert your annual income. Now is this really relevant? I thought that the idea was to find love, not a Sugar Daddy.

4. There is a section to talk about yourself and what you are looking for. Then there is a place where you can discuss what you do for fun, last read, as well your career, and your favorite things. Now the last part seems pretty easy and basic, however how does one really talk about yourself without giving all the intriguing info away before the first date. Also, reading some of the what someone is looking for sections are pretty interesting. I feel like I know the life story of some of these guys without ever having met them. Maybe, it's not that different from blogging then, yes?

If you have any interesting, funny, success stories, or tips regarding such sites then I would love to hear them.